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The Power of What Didn't Happen

In life, we often focus on the events that have shaped us, the experiences that have left their mark.

But what about the things that didn't happen?

The moments that were missing, the support that was absent, the love that was not given. This shift in perspective can be profound, offering us new insights into our lives and our path toward healing.


Take a moment to reflect on what didn't happen for you. Was there a lack of protection, support, or love in your life? Did you experience moments of hunger or need that went unmet? These absences, though not always acknowledged, can have a profound impact on our lives, shaping our beliefs, behaviors, and relationships.

Consider how these absences have influenced your life. Have they left you feeling unworthy or unlovable? Have they created patterns of behavior or thought that you struggle to break free from? Understanding the impact of these absences is part of your journey toward healing and growth.


It's important to recognize that while these absences have shaped your journey (likely without you even realizing it) they do not define you. You are not defined by what didn't happen for you. Instead, you can choose how to move forward. By acknowledging these absences and their impact, you can begin to rewrite your story, creating a future filled with love, support, and abundance; healing those pieces of you that felt something was missing. 

Take a few moments to reflect on a past event when your needs were not met and consider journaling about these questions:

  • How have the absences in my life shaped my beliefs about myself and the world around me?

  • In what ways do I see these absences reflected in my relationships and interactions with others?

  • What patterns of behavior or thought have developed as a result of these absences?

  • How have I coped with these absences in the past, and are these coping mechanisms still serving me?

  • What aspects of my life have been most affected by these absences, and how do I want to change or improve these areas?

  • What would it look like to fully acknowledge and heal from these absences, and what steps can I take to move towards this healing?

  • How can I cultivate a sense of self-love and worthiness, independent of the absences I've experienced?

  • What support or resources do I need to help me navigate this process of healing and growth?

  • How can I use my experiences with these absences to empathize with and support others who may be going through similar struggles?

  • What kind of future do I envision for myself, free from the limitations imposed by these past absences?


As you reflect on what didn't happen for you, remember that you have the power to shape your own narrative. Your past does not have to dictate your future. By embracing the lessons learned from these absences, you can pave the way for a journey of healing, growth, and self-discovery.

I'd love to hear your thoughts and discoveries!



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