For the person who knows what matters to them
yet somehow keeps putting their own needs and priorities
on the back burner.
Finally follow through on what YOU want — without another "strategy" that doesn't stick.
Monthly Reset is a live, guided 60-minute Zoom group session that helps you uncover what is shaping your behavior, work with the pattern underneath it, and reconnect with yourself so you can make choices that support the life you are ready to create.
If you could change one thing in your life right now, what would it be?
Chances are, it has something to do with one of three things:
Your relationships. Your health. Or your wealth.
Here is where it gets interesting and it can look pretty ordinary on the surface
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You know you want to make more money, but you keep procrastinating on the very things that would grow your income.
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You know you want to take better care of your health, but between taking care of everyone else and everything that needs to get done, you keep putting your own health on the bottom of the list.
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You set a goal and you really do intend to follow through, but then someone needs something from you and your goal gets pushed aside. Again.
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You have something valuable to say, but the possibility of being judged makes you hold it back.
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You want a better relationship with someone you love, but you focus so much on keeping the peace and what they need that your own needs go unspoken.
After doing this work for more than a decade, I started noticing the same thing showing up again and again:
people often know exactly what they want.
The trouble comes when life - and other people - start competing for your attention.
So I started asking a different question:
What happens to YOU when everything and everyone else enters the picture?
and what I noticed is this:
Different people. Different circumstances. Different wants.
Same underlying problem.
Somewhere along the way, you disconnect from something that matters to you - your own wants, needs, voice, values, goals, knowledge, worth or desires - in response to life and other people.
WHAT?!?!?
You might be thinking, “I’m disconnected from myself? I don’t think so. I know myself pretty darn well.” And yes, you probably do already know a lot. You've read the books, listened to the podcasts, maybe gone to therapy, worked with a coach, journaled, meditated, taken the classes, learned about your patterns, and become incredibly self-aware.
But, knowing yourself and staying connected to yourself when life get messy are two different things.
So, if awareness isn’t the issue,
the important questions to ask are:
1. Why am I doing this?
And even more importantly:
2. How do I find a solution?
Nobody wakes up in the morning and thinks,
“Today seems like a lovely day to abandon my needs, silence my voice and sabotage my goals.”
Yet sometimes, the thing making the decision, isn’t what you consciously want...
It’s the pattern you’ve practiced for years.
INTRODUCING
MONTHLY RESET
Monthly Reset teaches you how to stay connected with yourself so that
you can consistently make choices that support the life you are ready to create.
What members are saying:
I love the community. I have a sense of purpose and a drive now that has been missing for years.
Shawn, Washington
I run from unpleasant people less, hold my space more and speak up easier. Sessions are insanely insightful.
Rebecca, Washington
An incredible journey of self discovery and techniques to unfreeze stuck spots in my life.
Maggie, Montana
The monthly check in helps me be accountable to my goals. I have a sense of ‘If they can do it, I can do it’.
Debbie, Washington
Nothing else seems to change the way my brain works like this does.
PROGRAM PARTICPANT
Since the repatterning on Living Your Ideal Life, I have been living it all summer long!
PROGRAM PARTICPANT
I gave a powerful speech, and felt confident. Here's to leveling up each day!
PROGRAM PARTICPANT
It’s a group session that has personal, long lasting individual results.
PROGRAM PARTICPANT
Transformations you may get to experience:
Imagine...
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Feeling deeply connected to yourself first.
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Knowing your needs are non-negotiable.
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Lovingly taking care of your body, your bank account, and your boundaries
Dissolve relationship fears:
If I say no, if I disagree, if I stop giving… will they leave me?
I’d rather exhaust myself than risk rejection.
The whole family system will collapse if I stop holding it up - “No one will do it (or do it right), if I don’t.”
Become —->
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Have honest conversations with loved ones and feeling closer, not abandoned.
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Say No (and Yes) when you want to, free of guilt.
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See yourself and others as valuable and capable - even when you are not giving.
Dissolve health fears:
Living in pain forever
No energy to play with grandkids
Watching your body fall apart because you never prioritized it.
Become —->
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Wake up with energy
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Not drag yourself through the day
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Move your body in a way you love
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Nourish your body through healthy foods.
Dissolve financial fears:
Not being able to pay rent, no retirement, never owning a home, being a burden to your family in old age.
Become —->
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Watch your bank account grow and feeling worthy of it.
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Free yourself of debt by ending the cycle of overspending to fill a void of something that is missing in your life.
You’ve been holding it all together. Now it’s your turn to be held up.
With Monthly Reset you are given the opportunity to make a choice for you - feeling grounded and not guilty - and to look in the mirror and finally recognize the person looking back: happy, free, capable.
I can hear you now "Investing in myself feels selfish." It makes sense why you are thinking that - You've spent your whole life "spending" on everyone else.
But here's the reframe:
the people you love need you - recharged, present, alive.
Giving back to yourself through a Monthly Reset is the most loving thing you can do for them.
Your health, wealth, and relationship goals get to move forward faster than ever
because you're finally not last on your own list.
Monthly Reset is a live group Zoom program that happens the first Wednesday of every month at 5:30 PM MST.
When you join the subscription for just $44, you also immediately join the WhatsApp community and you have access to a library of prior Monthly Reset sessions. As of September 2026, this library is already over $850 in value
and every month it increases.
Reveal
We uncover what's actually shaping your behavior: the limiting beliefs and stuck emotions running the show underneath the surface. (Your "why do I keep doing this?" finally gets an answer.)
Repattern
We work directly with the pattern underneath — not just the symptom — and reprogram it for what you want instead. This is where the quitting loop gets interrupted. For good.
Reconnect
We reconnect you with yourself — the you that exists beyond everyone else's needs — so you can start making choices that support the life you actually want. (Your "how do I find a solution that sticks?" gets resolved.)
You might be thinking "I don't have the time or energy" and that may be exactly why you need this hour.
When your time and energy are continually being consumed by everyone else's needs, procrastination, overthinking or commitments you didn't really want to make, one hour spent changing the pattern can save you countless hours continuing it.
I’m not going to sugar coat it - it does take effort to show up. You get to register for class, put it in your calendar, clear your calendar, and show up. But the payoff will be worth it. Each session will continue to build your strength and capacity to make staying connected your new normal.
Come as you are, bathrobes are always welcome 😉.
When you join the Monthly Reset program remember - This isn’t an accountability group. This isn’t a “motivation” group. There are plenty of those out there…
This IS a give yourself the opportunity to
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look at the automatic programs creating your reactions and behaviors group.
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create real and lasting change group.
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and dive deep and heal from the inside out group.
If you’ve tried stuff like this before and quit, this is exactly why this is monthly. It’s not a one and done course. It is one month at a time, one reset at a time.
Come for the curiosity, stay for the impact - Give it a try for three months and see if it is a good fit. You have the option to cancel your membership at any time.
As R.B. says "My favorite part of the Monthly Reset is that everyone gets something powerful, no one can predict what it will be. The surprises and ah has through the process that Heather leads us through are insanely insightful, and as we grow together as a group, the humor about our problems grow, and the problems end up appearing smaller and smaller."
Options for Joining
Option 1: Monthly Reset Single Session
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Single Monthly Reset Group Session
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WhatsApp community for support
Option 2: Monthly Reset Subscription (most popular!)
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Monthly Reset Group Session
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WhatsApp community for support
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Access to the video library of all past Monthly Reset group sessions
Option 3: Monthly Reset Subscription Combo
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Monthly Reset Group Session
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WhatsApp community for support
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Access to the video library of all past Monthly Reset group sessions
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One Personal Session per billing period
You might be thinking ‘ya, this sounds pretty good, but I don’t think I’d like group work.’
That’s what D.H. thought in the beginning too. But after spending the last five months with us, this is what she said “I’ve never joined a group program before, however perhaps I should have. This group has been open in sharing the obstacles/difficulties they have experienced in reaching their goals. I’m more confident with sharing my feelings with a group. Heather never judges, and the group is respectful and supportive of each other."
One thing that makes this group unique is it is individual work with group support -
all working toward one common goal -
When I stay connected with myself, I create the life I desire faster.
As people begin sharing their answers, something really interesting happens: you start recognizing pieces of yourself in someone else’s experience. Sometimes another person’s answer gives language to something you’ve felt for years and haven’t known how to explain.
And you know what the magic is in that?
With the energetic container of the group, your life gets to uplevel in multiple areas at one time.
You get to do your own individual work while discovering things about yourself through the work of others.
Turn Self-Awareness into
Real Life Change.
New month. New momentum.
You have one precious life, and there will always be other people’s needs, unexpected circumstances, uncomfortable conversations, old triggers and plenty of reasons to default to what’s familiar.
Monthly Reset gives you a place to consistently reconnect with your voice, your desires, your goals, your worth, your body, your choices and the life you’re actively creating.
And the changes finally stick!
“Decide who you want to be, and do it on purpose.” -- Dolly Parton
Available OnlineA simple, supportive monthly rhythm to reset, reconnect, and live with greater clarity.
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P.S. A subscription is the simplest and most supportive way to participate!
Regular monthly resets help create lasting steadiness, clarity, and ease —
without needing to think about it.
Refund Policy
Heather McAbee, LLC has a NO REFUND policy.
Recurring Membership / Online Courses / Event Registration Fees: Membership, Online Courses, and Event Registration fees are non-refundable. For memberships that are being paid for on a monthly basis, there is no refund for any payments you’ve already made. You may cancel your subscription anytime if you no longer want to subscribe. You will still have access to the subscription until the end of the period you have paid for.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Have more questions? Simply send me an email: shiftingsands4health@gmail.com
I look forward to seeing you in the Zoom room for a Monthly Reset!