You don't lack discipline.
You've just been the last person
on your own list.
Introducing Monthly Reset — a live group program that uncovers the hidden beliefs keeping you stuck, reprograms the patterns that make you quit, and reconnects you with yourself…
so you can finally stick to your goals for health, wealth, and relationships. Without the guilt.
You know the story...
You start strong — a new routine, a new plan, a new commitment to yourself. And then… life. The kids. Your partner. Your parents. That voice in your head that whispers, "Who do you think you are? You'll never make it anyway."
So you quit. Again. Not because you're lazy. Not because you don't want it badly enough.
Because every time you've tried,
you were the one person in the room nobody was showing up for.
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You say yes when you want to say no.
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You give your energy away until there's none left.
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You feel guilty for spending a dollar — or an hour — on yourself.
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And somewhere along the way, you stopped knowing who you are when you're not being everyone's everything.
Here's what nobody told you:
Your discipline was never the problem.
The problem is the program running underneath — the old beliefs planted years ago ("you're not enough", "putting yourself first is selfish", "if you say no, they'll leave you"), and the stuck emotions (guilt, exhaustion, resentment) that have been driving your choices on autopilot.
That's why willpower never lasts.
You can't out-discipline a belief you don't even know
is there.
And that's why another course, another planner, another 'new year, new you' will never be enough. You don't need more motivation. You need a Monthly Reset.
What makes this different?
I consider yoga to be my first healing modality. Once both of my kids entered elementary school, I committed to going three days per week. Some mornings I would move freely through the entire practice, and other mornings I would lie on my mat and cry for the majority of the class. Almost every time, I left feeling such peace.
The problem was, the peace didn’t follow me off the mat.
I would return to my regular life and eventually the chaos, overwhelm, anger and sadness would return too. Yoga gave my body an opportunity to release, and it gave me moments of peace that I desperately needed at that time. I began to recognize, though, that the peace and release I experienced weren’t translating into the lasting changes I wanted in how I operated outside the yoga studio.
I wanted to understand and change what kept recreating the response.
That realization became an important part of the work I do today. There are so many valuable tools available to help us regulate our nervous systems, calm our bodies and feel better in the moment, and I believe those tools matter. I also believe we have to look at the pattern underneath the nervous system response if we want to change what continues activating it.
How do you expect to stop being triggered
when the pattern underlying the nervous system response remains unchanged?
In Monthly Reset, we explore the problem you’re experiencing, uncover the pattern that may be operating underneath it, work with the nervous system response, and repattern toward the outcome you actually want. This gives us an opportunity to create a shift in the moment while also working with what has been recreating the response.
In working with it this way, the reset stays with you out of the room.
Imagine, one month from now:
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Waking up with energy — not dragging yourself through the day.
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Making a choice for you — and feeling grounded, not guilty.
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Having an honest conversation with your partner or parents — and feeling closer, not abandoned.
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Slowly watching your bank account grow — and feeling worthy of it.
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Looking in the mirror and finally recognizing the person looking back: happy, free, capable.
That's not a fantasy. That's what happens when you stop fighting your patterns and start reprogramming them.
Monthly Reset is a live group Zoom program that happens the first Wednesday of every month at 5:30 PM MST.
Each session is a guided journey through three steps:
Reveal
We uncover what's actually shaping your behavior: the limiting beliefs and stuck emotions running the show underneath the surface. (Your "why do I keep doing this?" finally gets an answer.)
Reprogram
We work directly with the pattern underneath — not just the symptom — and reprogram it for what you want instead. This is where the quitting loop gets interrupted. For good.
Reconnect
We reconnect you with yourself — the you that exists beyond everyone else's needs — so you can start making choices that support the life you actually want. Not the life you were told to want.
Every month you get:
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🔴 A live group session (Zoom) — accountability that actually holds you
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🎯 A guided Reset process you can use all month long
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👥 A group of people who get it — no more doing this alone
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💫 The support to catch you before you fall — not after
Because you don't need another 6-week burst. You need a rhythm.
What members are saying:
I love the community. I have a sense of purpose and a drive now that has been missing for years.
Shawn, Washington
I run from unpleasant people less, hold my space more and speak up easier. Sessions are insanely insightful.
Rebecca, Washington
An incredible journey of self discovery and techniques to unfreeze stuck spots in my life.
Maggie, Montana
The monthly check in helps me be accountable to my goals. I have a sense of ‘If they can do it, I can do it’.
Debbie, Washington
Nothing else seems to change the way my brain works like this does.
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Since the repatterning on Living Your Ideal Life, I have been living it all summer long!
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I gave a powerful speech, and felt confident. Here's to leveling up each day!
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It’s a group session that has personal, long lasting individual results.
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I know you might be thinking...
"Investing in myself feels selfish."
I totally hear you. You've spent your whole life spending on everyone else. But here's the reframe: the people you love need you — recharged, present, alive. This is the most loving thing you can do for them.
"I don't have the time or energy."
That may be exactly why you need this hour. When your time and energy are continually being consumed by everyone else's needs, procrastination, overthinking or commitments you didn't really want to make, one hour spent changing the pattern can save you countless hours continuing it.
"I’ve tried stuff like this before. I always quit."
Exactly why this is monthly — not a one-and-done course. One month at a time. One reset at a time. And a group that notices when you're quiet. You don't have to hold yourself up alone anymore.
“Group work isn't really my thing.”
Perfect. You never have to share. Your experience is still completely personal — and you may be surprised by how much you discover about yourself simply by listening to someone else.
"Will it work for someone like me?"
This isn't positive thinking or another habit tracker. It's pattern work: we go underneath the behavior to the belief, and we reprogram it. That's why it sticks. You bring your willingness, I’ll bring the proven process.
“But I already know myself really well.”
You probably do. But knowing yourself and staying connected to yourself when life gets messy are two different things. Monthly Reset helps you work with the subconscious patterns that can override what you consciously know and want.
Experience a single live Monthly Reset and work with whatever is most relevant in your life right now. One session can create a meaningful shift in how you see, feel or respond to what you're experiencing.
"I’ve never joined a group program before, however perhaps I should have. This group has been open in sharing the obstacles/difficulties they have experienced in reaching their goals. I’m more confident with sharing my feelings with a group. Heather never judges, and the group is respectful and supportive of each other." -- D.H
Make Monthly Reset part of your ongoing personal growth. Each month gives you another opportunity to uncover what’s operating beneath the surface, repattern old responses, and build upon the changes you’re already making as new relationships, goals and experiences arise in your life.
With continued repatterning, you strengthen the pathways that support how you actually want to show up — so those new responses become increasingly familiar and available when you need them.
Can’t attend live? If you’re unable to join a Monthly Reset session live, you’ll still have access to the experience. A recording of each session will be uploaded to the Online Programs platform on this website within 48 hours of the live event. You can access the replay at a time that works best for you and move through the session at your own pace. Live attendance is always encouraged for the collective group experience, but replays ensure you never miss the opportunity to receive the work.
"My favorite part of the Monthly Reset is that everyone gets something powerful, no one can predict what it will be. The surprises and ah has through the process that Heather leads us through are insanely insightful, and as we grow together as a group, the humor about our problems grow, and the problems end up appearing smaller and smaller." -- R.B.
Option 3: Monthly Reset Subscription Combo (Space is limited to six)
Combine the collective experience of Monthly Reset with a private session tailored specifically to you. Along with your monthly group repatterning, your Individual Session gives us the time and space to follow your personal experience more deeply, including patterns you may not be able to recognize or access on your own.
Using muscle testing, I can help identify specific subconscious beliefs and patterns influencing what you're experiencing, giving us greater precision in what we address and repattern.
Why add an Individual Session? While the Monthly Reset offers powerful collective support and meaningful shifts, a one-on-one personal session creates space to focus entirely on you — your unique story, patterns, and goals. In a private session, we can: 1. Explore what’s most present in your life right now. 2. Identify root patterns influencing your decisions and reactions. 3. Create focused shifts tailored specifically to your personal experience. The combination of group momentum and individualized guidance allows insights to become more precise and integration to unfold more fully. Many clients find that pairing both experiences strengthens clarity, deepens confidence, and opens new possibilities across relationships, work, health, and personal direction. This option is for those ready to receive dedicated attention and amplify the impact of the work in a more concentrated way. Your subscription includes one (1) Monthly Reset group session and one (1) private Individual Session per subscription month. All sessions must be scheduled and completed within the active subscription month. Sessions do not roll over, accrue, or transfer to future months. Clients are responsible for booking sessions in advance, and unused sessions are forfeited at the end of the month. Refunds or credits are not issued for unused sessions. The subscription investment is equivalent to booking an Individual Session on its own — allowing you to receive the Monthly Reset group experience as an added benefit.
"It's a monthly group tune-up for our lives, with a monthly private session for detailed work on the things that are easier to do with more privacy and personalized attention." -- R.B.
What is Included
Option 1: Monthly Reset Single Session
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Single Monthly Reset Group Session
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WhatsApp community for support
Option 2: Monthly Reset Subscription
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Monthly Reset Group Session
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WhatsApp community for support
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Access to the video library of all past Monthly Reset group sessions
Option 3: Monthly Reset Subscription Combo
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Monthly Reset Group Session
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WhatsApp community for support
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Access to the video library of all past Monthly Reset group sessions
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One Personal Session per billing period
“Decide who you want to be, and do it on purpose.” -- Dolly Parton
Available OnlineA simple, supportive monthly rhythm to reset, reconnect, and live with greater clarity.
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P.S. A subscription is the simplest and most supportive way to participate!
Regular monthly resets help create lasting steadiness, clarity, and ease —
because your life doesn't start at week six and neither should your support.
Refund Policy
Heather McAbee, LLC has a NO REFUND policy.
Recurring Membership / Online Courses / Event Registration Fees: Membership, Online Courses, and Event Registration fees are non-refundable. For memberships that are being paid for on a monthly basis, there is no refund for any payments you’ve already made. You may cancel your subscription anytime. You will still have access to the subscription until the end of the period you have paid for.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Have more questions? Simply send me an email: shiftingsands4health@gmail.com
I look forward to seeing you in the Zoom room for a Monthly Reset!